As my daughter is getting older, I’m starting to find my feet as a mom to 3 little girls. There are a few things that I’ve started to noticed lately and it somewhat makes me feel slightly uncomfortable.
I’m slowly starting to ignore the stares, The sympathetic nods, I make a conscious effort to not glare back or not give a sarcastic whimper, not sure why, as Evie is no hindrance on our life at all, (again we go back to the stereotyping, but those who no will no)
There’s one thing that’s annoying me now, is, my friends.
I do like my friends and this is not a post that want to slate them. It’s the overly niceness with Evie. I sometimes find myself squirming inside. Or to put it bluntly “listen she’s got down syndrome, she’s not a delicate little flower, she’s a baby, she will pull your hair, scratch your face, poo, (the most smelly ones) she will roll and pick at any wire that’s around, so you get my drift. Yet my friends are so over the top with her it’s bugs me. ‘Oh my god let me hold her’ ‘Oh my she’s pulling my hair ‘ you get my drift. At a party, lady’s fuss over her. Massively. To a point were I feel so uncomfortable. It’s as if they are saying ‘look I’m not prejudice against disabilities’ yet behaving like that only makes Evie stand out more. Her sisters must wonder why people are so over the top.
I’m pretty sure people that don’t really want to be my friend are because of my little Evie, I’m totally ashamed to say. (I no who they are but it makes them feel better so I put up with it)
Example of Facebook. My other 2, 7/8 likes. Throw in Evie and I’m up to 40. Amazing. Even if I threw one up with her not camera ready I’ll guarantee you it will throw me up more likes then ever. I call it the sympathetic likes.
I still have family that have not met Evie. The ones that celebrate all things down syndrome yet fail to see the one in their family. Ironic. They are so uncomfortable with what there reaction will be that they don’t want to see her.
I just want to put this out there. Just because you don’t coo over a disabled child doesn’t mean anything to me, but going over the top does.
I often wonder that people who behave like that are uncomfortable. They don’t know how to handle s child with special needs.
I just want Evie to be treated the same as her sisters. The same as any other baby, as friends behaving like this only makes her stand out more.
I don’t want her growing up feeling the indifference, feeling that everyone watches her with amazement, but somehow I’m not sure that’s going to happen.